tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post1863915846344812552..comments2024-03-12T03:39:02.148-04:00Comments on Leigh vs. Laundry: I Was a Fourth Grade Bully.leigh hewetthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15556509134001737237noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post-43361883245543095112010-10-28T22:16:20.189-04:002010-10-28T22:16:20.189-04:00There was a commercial on television a few years a...There was a commercial on television a few years ago that showed a man in an office being shoved, elbowed, verbally abused, etc. by his coworkers. When bullying was put in this context, it really makes you question the things we tell kids. I'm a teacher. And telling kids to find an adult to help doesn't help...it can make things worse. Walking away, telling the bully how you feel...these feel like "solutions", but really just make the adult feel like they're doing something. I worry for my children, esp. with so much in the news about suicides related to bullying. Love and support your children's feelings, teach them to trust their feelings and to feel safe sharing them. If your child is bullied, get them out of the situation in any way you can: change schools, homeschool...just get them out. No adult would stay in a job where they're repeatedly bullied. LOVE the last line of this...always feel somewhat ashamed of the desire for bullies to get their asses kicked by someone bigger and stronger than them. But of course...oh, I'm just on a rant now. Will sign off and write more later, perhaps!The Knitty Gritty Homesteadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02890656094078973552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post-30948487413251438392010-10-28T21:55:45.676-04:002010-10-28T21:55:45.676-04:00hmmm, i was bullied a lot, and all the way through...hmmm, i was bullied a lot, and all the way through high school. leigh, you remember those scary goth girls with black lipstick and eyeliner that always wanted to kick my ass for some unknown reason? i actually snuck out of clubs to avoid this threatened ass-kicking. what i really wish was that i had stood up to those jerks and possibly taken a beating (but hopefully have given one). i am a small person, so i always felt like anyone could hurt me physically if they wanted to and that's what i was so scared of. i just wish my folks had put me in martial arts of some sort when i was trying a new hobby every year. maybe then i wouldn't have been so afraid. <br /><br />i'd like to also point out that my WORST fear of being assaulted actually came in college when i was 22 years old and thought all that crap was way behind me. it was actually a very transformative event because i realized i may be little but i'm not made of glass. still, it took awhile to stop feeling victimized over that one.<br /><br />lastly, i was actually bullied incessantly at work, by a woman with 2 young children! she bullied me by telling me and anyone else who would listen that i was incompetent and should be fired. i cried everyday either at work or for hours afterward. i was 28 years old. i finally left that job and several years later had an epiphany.<br /><br />no one can make you feel bad. you have to LET them. it's important to learn how to be in control of your own emotions (something i didn't learn fully until i was about 32). i'm hoping to teach my daughter about self-respect, choosing good friends, not taking crap and defending herself if the need arises. besides that, if someone screws with her, i will f*@k them up.risa bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17418101187681413656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post-30571684264565437362010-10-28T12:22:16.743-04:002010-10-28T12:22:16.743-04:00The effects of bullying last forever. Having said ...The effects of bullying last forever. Having said that, we've all been on one side or the other at one time or another.<br /><br />The thing that worries me is that today's bullying is so uniquely vicious, and the means of spreading it so much more effective and widespread.<br /><br />Makes me worry for my grandchildren.<br /><br />"/Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post-71431617513730962852010-10-28T11:38:23.511-04:002010-10-28T11:38:23.511-04:00Leigh, this is such a great post. You nailed it on...Leigh, this is such a great post. You nailed it on the head. I was bullied in jr. high and it's always been hard for me to talk about. Even though I was the victim of it I have always felt ashamed. Thank you for posting this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post-17620436055750597292010-10-28T09:26:02.778-04:002010-10-28T09:26:02.778-04:00The way we bullied kids then and the way it is hap...The way we bullied kids then and the way it is happening now is completley different. We didn't go online and post rumors for the whole world to see. We didn't threaten to kill other kids or post naked pictures of them. <br /><br />If I could take back all of the heart ache that I caused kids growing up, I would, and I hope that they would take back the pain they caused me.Just Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18160679896865731357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3910944908737969258.post-37216322666463274352010-10-28T08:24:44.922-04:002010-10-28T08:24:44.922-04:00I think what sickens me the most about all of this...I think what sickens me the most about all of this today is the bully is in essence a dang coward. They don't come face to face like they did when we were kids. They hide under fake accounts on the internet and fake email accounts. Then anyone who doens't have the balls to be a face to face bully gets credit for the crap. <br />If you are gonna be a bully, then have the balls to go toe to toe and get your a** whooped at some point by someone who is tired of being bullied.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01949756584291140114noreply@blogger.com