Tuesday, June 11, 2013

The Happiness Project :: Week 14


My mom and I had a little date, just the two of us.
This is a rare occurance since it's summer
and were usually carting the boys around with us.

We started by going shopping.
It was a luxury to be able to browse 
without having to keep up with two little boys
hiding in the clothing racks
or bouncing off the walls in the dressing room.


Then, we went to the movies!
The Great Gatsby was a feast for my eyes.

I also ate an entire bag of popcorn all by myself.
It was such a treat.

We even went out to dinner together.
It was so peaceful and quiet
without my little monsters there to stir up trouble.

We talked about the movie and life.
It was refreshing to have an uninterrupted adult conversation.

I feel so blessed that my mom is my best friend.
We had a blast together!



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Monday, June 10, 2013

Counting our Blessings and Holding on Tight!!!!


I got a call from Roger Thursday evening. "I've been in a wreck." he said "You need to come get me!" His voice was quivering. I dropped the boys off with my mom and my dad drove me down the highway to find my husband. It was raining hard. My heart was racing.

When I found him he was soaked to the bone from standing on the side of the road in the shower. The accident had been cleared and he was white as a sheet.

He told me that his car had suddenly hydroplaned in the rain and that he crossed over the median, sending his car flying into oncoming traffic. He told me that he literally thought that he was about to die as his car barrelled toward a line of cars.

He said that as his car flew into another car that he screamed out a prayer.  His car spun around and then he hit a truck. Spinning, he finally came to a stop. When he looked to his right, he was mere 3 feet from a semi-truck. He narrowly missed slamming into it.

Amazingly, no one involved in the accident was injured too terribly. After the door was pried off and he stepped out onto the road, he looked down to see a pool of red fluid from his vehicle spilling onto the highway. For a moment, he thought it was blood and that he might have killed someone. He was terrified.

The police officer couldn't believe that everyone walked away from the accident. He said that he was preparing himself to have to life flight someone from the scene and was shocked to see that Roger didn't have one single scratch on his body.

He got lucky!

Except I believe that it was more than luck. For one...he wasn't in his new car. When we bought the Suzuki, we forgot the title to the Explorer. We left it at the dealer with plans to return with the title. We searched everywhere and couldn't find it. So, we ordered a new one with a week wait time.

Then, Roger's radio went out on his new car and since it was under warranty, he dropped it off at the dealer to get fixed and drove the Explorer home that evening.


It all unfolded as it did for a reason. I don't think that his new car would have held up in a crash of this magnitude.

Beyond that, though. I had a foreboding feeling for weeks leading up to the accident. The kind of feeling that brings you to your knees, literally. I had such a strong sense that a tragedy was heading our way that I started praying prayers of protection for my family.

At first I thought that maybe it was the devil trying to rob me of my joy. I reasoned that I was being paranoid. Yet, I still prayed. I was actually in a constant state of prayer. I prayed protection around Roger's car before I went to bed at night. I prayed when he walked out the door to go to work. I prayed at 5:00 pm everyday for weeks because I knew that he was behind the wheel on his commute home.

I honestly believe that God moved me to pray so intensely to spare Roger's life in this wreck. I don't talk about my spiritual life often on this blog because it's very personal to me but...I can't deny that I was moved by something beyond me. I don't know if you've ever felt God's mercy but it is powerful and undeniable.

This is now our testimony.

God honors obedience. God's silent voice can be felt in obedient hearts.

I don't know what I would do without my husband. Our little family needs him around to make this thing work! We have a rekindled connection of just how lucky we are...of what a wonderful thing we have here in our messy house.

I'm holding him tighter. We're holding each other tighter.

P.S. Something went wonky with my RSS feed so my updates haven't been showing up in your feed!!! I think that problem is fixed! I noticed a drop in my readership and was worried that I'd lost my mojo! So, welcome back! Please let me know if this showed up in your feed so I know that the problem is fixed!

Friday, June 7, 2013

Summer Live List # 8 :: Random Act of Kindness


We're checking things off our Live Summer list
so we decided to do a random act of kindness for a stranger.

We took a special trip to the floral department
and picked out a bouquet of flowers.
 

We were so excited to pay for them
and then the plan was to give the flowers
to the cashier that rang us up.


 She was so happy and surprised.
It was so fun to see her face light up
when we handed her the flowers.

I know that this was a small gesture
but it really felt good to do something nice.


Then the boys jumped in puddles
in the parking lot.

That was their favorite part!

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Throwback Thursday :: To be Read in 2027.



Originally posted 8/9/10

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Dear Leigh,
This letter is being written by your 35 year old self. By my calculations when you read this you will be 53 years old. If all goes as you hope it does, Griffin should be about to graduate college and Koen should be packing up to leave for college right about now. I just wanted to tell you how proud I am that you made it this far and that the boys are happy and healthy and ready to go into the world and take it on. You did good, mama.

Listen, I really hope that you took the time over the years to take care of yourself. I mean, I know that being a mom is what you seem to do the best but I hope that you fostered your writing as well. I hope that you kept a part of yourself over the years for this moment, the moment that the boys are leaving. Please, do us both a favor and don't freak out because they are leaving.

Get excited about your new life. Travel, paint, read, write, and please spend some much needed time with your husband.

Today, as I type this, Griffin is 5 years old and about to start his third year at Montessori school. He'll be staying everyday until 2:30 pm. This is a big deal around here. I'm going to miss him so much. I guess that I am feeling just a touch of what you are feeling now. It's so hard to let him go with grace. I can feel the shift, he is growing by leaps and bounds. Koen is 16 months and is about to give up nursing. I think that he is just humoring me at this point. We are down to two nursings and they are so short that they really shouldn't count. So, both of the boys are needing me a bit less. I just had a good cry about it.

I am starting the hard work now. I am working on letting them go slowly so that when you are saying goodbye to Koen as he leaves for college and both of the boys are officially out of the house, that you will have a safe space saved just for you. I am creating that place in your heart today and I promise to protect it. A place that is full of love and memories of when the boys were so very young. I promise to do this for you, to take care of you now and over the years as each milestone passes by. So that when the time comes, you will feel strong. I promise to cry if I need to cry so that the tears don't sneak up on you. I promise to be good to me so that you will be nurtured. I will love my children unguarded and whole heartedly but I will love myself freely too. I will take the time to make sure that there will still be joy available to you when this job of being someone's Mom has run it's course.

I love you,
Leigh

P.S. Sorry that I didn't moisturize my face better in my younger days!

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

It's Raining Peace Beans!


From the moment that my boys 
open in their eyes in the morning,
they start clobbering each other.

In an effort to promote peace
and sanity during these  long summer days,
I made two peace jars for the boys.


If I see them acting kind to one another
or being peaceful toward me by obeying,
I just grab a red bean from my bean bowl
and drop a peace bean into their jar.

One rule is that they are
allowed to point out to me 
that they deserve a bean if I didn't notice.

This means that they often
set themselves up to get along 
and then yell to me from across the house.
I hear them say things like...
"Mom, I just didn't hit Koen back!"
or "Hey mom, I shared my toy with Griffin!"


As the beans stack up
 they can earn privileges and prizes.

Guess what?
It's totally working!
We've had a great start to our summer.

If I hear them arguing 
I just remind them about their peace jar
and they simmer down pretty quickly.

I lurve Peace Beans!!



Tuesday, June 4, 2013

The Happiness Project :: Week 13


Roger has been driving a 1999 Ford Explorer
that's been on it's last leg for the last year.
It has over 300,000 miles on it.

It's a gas guzzler and since Roger has a long commute to work
we sat down and crunched the numbers
to discover that we could make a car payment
with what we would save in gas if 
we got a new car with higher mpg.


So we dropped the boys off
with my parents and drove into Atlanta over the weekend
to visit a few car dealerships in search of a new ride!

I love the haggeling that unfolds
in the process.

At one point Roger was in the middle
of bargaining with the dealer
and I was openly giggling at their tense exchange.

I'm sure that it didn't help our case.
 

In the end, we went to Carmax
where we found our new to us car!


We bought a Suzuki SX4.
 I named it Lil' Zippy!
It feels so good to have Roger
driving in a safe car to work!



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Monday, June 3, 2013

46 Years!

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Happy Anniversary, Mom and Dad!
I love this picture of y'all.
You look so happy and in love on your wedding day.

46 years later and you're still together!
I've learned so much about love 
from watching your relationship over the years.

Thank you for giving us a happy home
 when we were growing up.

Thank you for opening your hearts
to our boys and taking such great care of them.

I am who I am
because my parents 
are loving to me
and each other.

I hope that you have a wonderful day
celebrating your marriage.
Dad, you better take Mom somewhere fancy!!!